August 26th, 2019
Remembering Pam Bowling
This weekend we celebrated the beautiful Pam Chenworth-Bowling at her memorial as she left to heaven to be with Tony… we will miss her forever. We love you, Pam, and will never forget your kindness and your friendship. You can read below what Loren said about Pam at her eulogy – it was so beautiful and so true…
Hi I am – Loren Ridinger
I stand in front of you today to celebrate the life of beautiful and loving daughter, wife, sister, aunt, and our dear friend. The beautiful and incomparable – Pam Bowling.
Pam along with tony – became one of the most accomplished, respected, and successful entrepreneurs our company has ever known.
Pam was everything to everyone. She was elegant, sophisticated, beautiful, kind, loving and funny. She had style and grace. She was a woman of faith.
Pam and Tony together were ahead of their time. Open minded, pioneers of progress, and helped others to achieve a life thought only to be found in dreams.
To hear their story was incredible and the teams of leaders they built together is a tribute to them both and the legacy they leave behind.
Pam and Tony’s stories of pain and perseverance turned into power and security, giving so many hope – and pushed us all to be greater.
She always made me smile when Tony would act confused about something or question something we were doing, and he would make a funny face. She would laugh out loud and say – what are you saying Tony? Lol as if she was the foil to soften him on some occasionsJ
She always knew what to say –
She was the person we looked most forward to seeing at our company events -every year for 28 years. I know JR and my team would say the same. And would echo all my words.
Pam was a people person – everyone who came in contact with her- loves her, loved her and she made an impact on everyone she touched.
She so loved her family. She especially talked about how much she loved her mom. Joan, she told me you were fattening her up in her final week and that she was so happy you both got to spend so much time together. Especially in the end. She said Loren its funny, I suppose the only time we get to be little girls again is when mom is around.
Lori, – her sister, but even more so, best friends by choice. She loved you so much- you were her confidant, the one she shared secrets with – the one she shared everything with. The Lori I had never met but knew so well from all the beautiful stories she always loved to tell.
She spoke passionately to me about the triplets – the children she never had but somehow were hers, as Lori so lovingly shared. You were the light in her life. From the day those babies were born, she never stopped talking about you. She loved you all so much.
And after 28 years we finally met in ocean city Maryland at the convention…. Pam did that. She always knew the right time and place.
I have been blessed to know Pam for more than half my life.
We are the lucky ones – the ones who knew you – who still love you- whose lives will forever be changed and be divided into a before and after- because of you.
This last 2 weeks have been nothing less than devastating to all of us who love Pam.. Its hurts so much to lose someone you love, and I believe even more so when we lose them without much notice –
But we must remember our god is not required to send out memos – and Pam didn’t need one, as she died a believer. Someone who shared her faith and knew that her home was always in heaven – we were just blessed for the time she shared here with us.
Today she is one with GOD and she is with her man – Tony. The fairytale romance that has no end. I suppose Tony is the one who sent her the memo J– 37 years together! For those of you who know them know that – there is no Tony without Pam and no Pam without Tony.
For the last 2 years of her life, she took care of Tony. She cared for him, loved him, bathed him, fed him. And I can tell you on many occasions she told me she wouldn’t have had it any other way.
Even when Tony was sick – she not knowing of her illness but had pain – she never talked about it, we never knew – she never knew – she never looked back, she never complained. – she never let hardship, keep her restrained.
A message in church spoke to me the other night, they spoke about how god never promised that we would reach our destiny without opposition, disappointment and things we don’t understand.
To not be surprised when we face fiery trials. That nothing has stopped his plan for our life. And that we need to have faith in “the middle”.
It’s more important what’s happening in you than what’s happening around you.
And while I am sure it’s almost impossible to find clarity in all that we are feeling right now, I know that in time, the crooked pieces will become straight. And the clarity of how you are feeling will come to sight.
Our GOD is a GOD of restoration. Your peace is in my prayers today.
Grief never ends – but it changes. It is passage not a place to stay. Grief is not a sign of weakness, nor a lack of faith… it is the price of love.
Death leaves a heartache no one can heal –
But love leaves a memory no one can steal.
It’s like something magical comes from these places of life and death.
We don’t understand it on this side, but one day it will all make sense. But for now, I think pam would tell us we need to love more, hug more, and laugh more.
I would like to leave you with a few words that I believe pam is sharing with us today.
Don’t remember me with sadness,
Don’t remember me with tears,
Remember all the laughter,
We’ve shared throughout the years.
Now I am contented
That my life it was worthwhile,
Knowing that I passed along the way
I made someone smile.
When you are walking down the street
And you’ve got me on your mind,
I’m walking in your footsteps
Only a half a step behind.
So please don’t be unhappy
Just because I’m out of sight,
Remember that I’m with you
Every morning, noon and night.